Have you ever met someone who just exuded self-confidence? Did you wonder whether they were born that way or if they learned it from somewhere?
Self-confidence comes from a number of factors, including skills which are learned and practiced, and by developing an internal locus of control. That last factor is psycho-speak for a process whereby you accept responsibility for your own result. If you can master this process then self-confidence will develop. Accepting that you are actually in control of your level of confidence is the first step. Once you have done this you can embark upon a self-help process to build your confidence and tackle the challenges that come your way.
There is a range of things you can do to help yourself feel more confident in day-to-day or challenging life situations. Here are just a few ideas:
1. Follow your strengths.
Remember, being self-confident is about being the best possible “you” that you can be. It certainly won’t come from trying to be someone else.
2. Plan ahead.
3. Take action.
This can often be simply a matter of taking the challenge that you have and breaking it down into small steps. Remember, the first step is always the hardest.
4. Practice and study.
5. Act the part.
This may simply be a matter of practicing the old “fake it till you make it” routine.
A great way to boost your self-confidence is to rehearse upcoming conversations, presentations and interactions. It will give you great confidence because when you go into that situation it won’t really be for the first time.
And, when the going gets tough, persist again!
8. Enjoy your success.
It’s important to enjoy the success of reaching a goal that you have been aiming for. Don’t forget to pat yourself on the back and to share your accomplishment with others.
Being confident is a skill which anyone can master. As well as following these simple steps it is worth remembering that confidence is higher when you are in the company of confident people. Have a look at who you keep company with and try to spend time with confident, successful people. You may just be surprised at how much more confident you will feel.